Christian Counseling in Culver City for Abandonment Issues and Neglect

The LORD himself goes before you and will be with you; He will never leave you nor forsake you. – 2 Deuteronomy 31:8

Connection is a hardwired human need. An often overlooked form of abuse is abandonment or neglect. Although neglect may not cause physical wounds, it can alter behaviors and impact relationships. Abandonment can cause a severe fear of rejection, damage self-esteem, and bring about a host of other long-term insecurities.

Fortunately, you don’t have to stay stuck in your fear of abandonment. At Culver City Christian Counseling, we work to help you find the strength to move forward in life without fear of neglect.Your faith-based counselor will provide a safe environment for you to share your struggles and process the effects that abandonment and neglect have had on your life.

Your road to healing begins here. Browse our counselor directory or call us at (949) 386-7179 to set up your initial risk-free appointment.

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Abandonment and neglect defined

Abandonment can be real or perceived, emotional or physical. Abandonment and neglect usually fall into three main categories depending on age – childhood, adult, and senior neglect.

Child abandonment or neglect

Child neglect happens when a child’s needs are withheld, not adequately provided by the legal guardian. Some examples of childhood abandonment or neglect include (but are not limited to):

  • Children who felt deserted due to divorce, death, foster care or daycare

  • Children who felt forsaken because of verbal, physical, emotional or sexual abuse

  • Children whose basic needs were not met by their parents.

  • Children or infants who are left with another person, on the side of a road, or in a dumpster with the intent of not returning for them.

  • Children who are left home alone for long periods of time without adult supervision or proper care.

Adult abandonment or neglect

Abandonment for adults takes many forms. The most common forms of abandonment are marital abandonment and senior-dependent neglect. Both physical and emotional abandonment are prevalent in these situations. When a spouse withholds communication, intimacy, or emotional support it can be considered neglect. Physical abandonment occurs if a spouse leaves the marriage without justification and refuses to fulfill his responsibilities in the marriage.

Some examples of marital neglect or abandonment include (but are not limited to):

  • Leaving the spouse without justification and failing to provide any monetary support.

  • Physically severing ties with family without mutual consent or justification.

  • Regularly and consistently denying sexual intimacy with one’s spouse without legitimate justification.

  • Ignoring the care a spouse requires who has a serious health condition

  • Refusing to provide financial support for children that are under the age of 18.

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Senior-dependent abandonment or neglect

Similar to childhood neglect,senior-dependent neglect happens when the things necessary for the senior’s health and safety are not provided or not adequately provided.

Some examples of senior-dependent neglect include (but are not limited to):

  • Seniors who are not given adequate nutrition, clothing, shelter, supervision or medical care by those legally responsible.

  • Seniors who don’t receive communication or minimal communication.

  • Seniors who are abandoned to take care of themselves when they are physically or mentally unable to do so which jeopardizes healthy and safety.

Emotional neglect

If you have suffered some sort of abandonment or neglect, please know that you are not alone. You may have been overlooked your entire life, but the counselors at Culver City Christian Counseling want to connect with you. In our counseling environment, you will have a safe place to grief, process what’s been done to you, and begin to heal from those deep wounds.

Effects of neglect and abandonment

It can be difficult to pinpoint what issues are a result of pain from neglect or abandonment. People with the painof abandonment were usually deserted by someone they trusted. As a result, they have learned to create boundaries, rely on themselves and struggle to maintain healthy relationships.

Effects of childhood neglect or abandonment issues include:

  • Constant anxiety

  • Severe insecurity

  • Flashbacks of abandonment memories

  • Low self-esteem

  • Depression

  • Prone to isolate

  • Feelings of not being in control

  • Panic attacks

  • Obsessing over the abandonment or possibility of abandonment

  • Extreme emotional reactions to feeling insulted, criticized, or left out

  • Vulnerability in social situations

  • Substance abuse

Culver City Christian Counseling has a team of licensed family counselors with experience and skill at providing therapy for children. If you believe your child has suffered from abandonment or neglect, counseling is a safe place to sort through the damaging effects.

Although most abandonment or neglect occurs in childhood, it’s common that people don’t deal with the effects until adulthood.

Adult symptoms of abandonment or neglect issues may include:

  • Low self-worth

  • Severe insecurity

  • Withdrawal from people and activities

  • Need for constant reassurance

  • Substance abuse

  • Self-inflicted harm

  • Complacency

  • Low self-esteem

Effects of abandonment and neglect are similar across ages. However, marital or senior neglect may also include the following symptoms:

  • Confusion and disbelief

  • Extreme emotional pain

  • Overwhelming shame

  • Severe trust issues

  • Grief

  • Self-doubt

  • Despair or a loss of hope

If the effects of abandonment and neglect are left to fester, relationships will continue to crumble. It can become too complicated to maintain healthy relationships with loved ones. Many people with a deep fear of abandonment find it challenging to trust that God will not leave them.

Jesus Christ said to His disciples in Matthew 28:20b, “I am with you always, to the end of the age.” Scripture also reminds us, “The LORD is close to the brokenhearted and saves those who are crushed in spirit” (Psalm 34:18).

Even if you have been abandoned by earthly friends or family, know that God has not abandoned you or forgotten about you. You can cling to the cross, where our hope is found in Jesus Christ. If you’ve experienced abandonment or neglect, Culver City Christian Counseling invites you to partner with a counselor to work through any hurts, obstacles or setbacks in your life. We believe your hope can be restored and healing found.

FAQ About Christian Counseling for Abandonment Issues

It’s important to choose a counselor that you feel comfortable sharing details of your life with. A counselor that has experience counseling people who have endured neglect is another important consideration. Don’t forget to explore the counselor directory to find one who fits your specific needs.

Definitely! It is possible to overcome your struggles to find healing from the pain you’ve experienced. Although neglect and abandonment often go unaddressed, they are extremely common.Abandonment does not have to define your life or dictate your future.

Every person is different and no road to recovery is identical. The counselors at Culver City Christian Counseling can work with you to determine the duration of counseling, but it will be based on many factors. The counselor you select will help you decide what type of counseling will be best.

At Culver City Christian Counseling, a trusted counselor will walk alongside you as you face the effects of abandonment. You can overcome and discover ways to love yourself and others in healthy ways. To find out more about counseling for abandonment or neglect, contact us online or at (949) 386-7179.We look forward to beginning this journey with you.

Get connected with a Christian Counselor
Please contact our reception team at
949-386-7179