Culver City Christian Counseling provides a warm, safe, and caring environment for Christian couples who would like to express themselves freely in order to work things out. Each person has their own set of values, personality traits, strengths, weaknesses,and habits which may be difficult for others to accept or comprehend. Often this is where the conflict starts.
Counselors at Culver City will seek to identify all of these and process them individually as they also have an impact on one’s partner. This is an important point because God intends for His children to be in peaceful community with each other but the flesh and the ways of this world tend to hinder that. In Christian couples counseling, we hope that by faith, wisdom,and guidance of Jesus Christ through His Word, couples will come to have a more Christ-filled relationship.
Indications That A Couple Needs Counseling
Some couples are unaware that they are already damaging their relationship and each other. Before they know it, tempers burst from holding back years of hurt and resentment and both are left confused, devastated and just wanting to call it off. Below are some of the main indicators indicating to you and your partner that it’s time to consider Christian couples counseling in Culver City:
Problems with communicating with each other – Miscommunication is perhaps one of the most challenging conflicts that couples encounter. There are conversations that leave us hurt, misunderstood, angry, and even feeling like we just want to shut the person out.
Miscommunication can either be harmful communication or a lack of it. Sometimes couples fall into a deadlock in resolving their communication problems, so the guidance of a counselor is needed.Below are examples of statements made by people who have communication problems with their partners:
Her: “I feel like I’m talking to a brick wall. No matter how many times I try, I can’t get through to him. Then we just fight and nothing is ever any better after.”
Him: “I’m always doing something wrong, and I just don’t want to hear it. Nothing I say matters anyway.”
Infidelity – If you or your partner have had relationships with other people outside of your marriage or you have thoughts of cheating, then it is best to seek help right away so as to deal with the real issues that have led you or your partner to cheat. Below are sample statements of people who are cheating or are considering to have one:
Him: “She doesn’t seem to have any interest in me anymore. Sometimes I think about having an affair.”
Her: “There’s something missing. I don’t feel like I used to, and that makes it difficult to be in the mood.”
Absence of Emotional Intimacy – Being in a relationship does not guarantee not feeling lonely. Some couples report feeling alone and distant from their partner. They feel like the connection isn’t just there anymore. Because of this, it candrive the individual to commit infidelity or to withdraw from the relationship, causing more damage.
Her: “I’m tired of feeling like I’m alone. He’s distant and never seems to have time for me.”
Him: “She blocks me out and completely ignores me. I ask what’s wrong, and she won’t say anything.”
Conflict left unresolved – Couples tend to brush things under the rug in order to avoid shouting matches. As a result, conflicts are left unresolved and just keep piling up over the years. A counselor will help resolve these issues by being neutral when both of you begin to air out your grievances in a neutral and safe environment where the goal is really to fix the problems and not to vindicate each side.
Him: “There always seems to be a problem. I can’t do anything right.”
Her: “No matter how hard I try we can’t fix this. It’s like he can’t hear me.”
Destructive Behaviors – Couples who are in troubled relationships are at risk of abusing each other not just emotionally but even physically. Sadly, some get so carried away by their negative emotions that they begin to express it through violent behavior. What’s worse, if not dealt with properly, this can be a habit for both that will just go on and on.
Her: “He gets in these moods where he is so short tempered. I feel like I’m walking on eggshells, trying not to make him angry.”
Him: “She jabs at me constantly. It’s like she’s always looking for something wrong that I’m doing, just to give me a hard time for no reason.”
Being in a relationship that has so much turmoil can leave you exhausted, empty and without hope. However, we at Culver City Christian Counseling encourage you to try out Christian counseling. Results are promising for each couple as we ourselves have had the joyful honor of seeing Christian couples successfully reviving their relationship by going through counseling. Whether your problems seem small or great, we at Culver City Christian Counseling are ready to help you and your spouse.
Transforming Relationships Through Christian Couples Counseling
Some people hold back on getting counseling for their relationship out of fear that it may not work out or that their relationship will just get worse. Webmd.com states that “In the hands of a good counselor, marriage counseling is successful 70-80% of the time.” One of the secrets to successful counseling is having the right Christian couples counselor. At Culver City Christian Counseling, we have a high success rate with our Christian couples counselors.