Case Study:
Before seeking us out, Shaun had begged his wife to give him “one more chance.” He didn’t know how to be a good husband and father. Though he had always pushed back at the idea of counseling, Shaun finally chose to enter into counseling if his wife would commit to granting him one more chance. She did agree and Shaun set an appointment. He was reluctant to completely buy into Christian counseling at first. The realization that the counselor was human, too, a man who carried his own battle scars, allowed Shaun to settle into the counseling process. He was now on a pathway to discovery and healing.
If, like Shaun, you are uncomfortable with the idea of Christian counseling, you are not alone. Research shows that women are much more likely to pursue counseling than men. Men often avoid asking for help until a situation reaches an absolute crisis point. Many men learn from a young age to hide their emotions while trying to solve their problems on their own. It is a common fear that displays of emotion imply weakness of character. Sadly, the very reasons men resist seeking out counseling is often the very reasons that they need it.
Christian counseling for men addresses critical areas of life for spiritual as well as practical improvement. By learning to identify and articulate your emotions and problems, you will learn more about who you are, who God wants you to become, and how to communicate your needs in a healthy way.
The Kinds Of Problems Tackled By Christian Counseling For Men
The following is a list of some of the most common reasons men seek help:
Anxiety and Depression
Do you live with worry or fear that won’t go away? Are you often listless, having trouble maintaining focus, or feeling down most of the time? If these symptoms describe your daily existence, you may have major anxiety or depression, two common problems for men that are also commonly neglected.
Prolonged, these two problems can eat your life away. Getting help is critical for living free from the control of these conditions. We can help you dig out the root causes of these problems.
Anger
Some men are angry all the time. When disappointment, hopelessness, frustration, self-loathing, or alienation arise, it is the habit of many to get angry, rather than deal with the root problems.
Unmanaged anger creates problems at work and damages relationships at home. It can even lead to legal trouble.
If you need help, Christian counseling for anger can teach you how to put anger in its rightful perspective and understand something of the dynamics of your anger. You can learn a better way to live, keeping your anger under control, no longer being mastered by anger.
Pornography and Sexual Addiction
American society is “sexualized.” Sex is used and portrayed everywhere, magnified on billboards, used in magazine ads, printed on t-shirts to sell more of them. And now, it’s easily (and “privately”) available on our phones, tv’s, and laptops.Every day, you can view suggestive ads or hard-core pornography.
The consequences of this addiction can be very serious, mentally, emotionally, personally, relationally, and even legally. If porn has you, if it is controlling your life, take the first step toward breaking free by contacting Culver City Christian Counseling.
Integrity and Servant Leadership
Do you know what it means to be a man of God? Do honor, personal integrity, and godly leadership have any place in your thinking and living?Through counseling, you can gain a greater understanding of these concepts and find out how to be the man Christ wants you to become. Biblical leadership involves attitudes of service and sacrifice at home, church, or at work. A leader takes the first steps: to serve, to forgive, to love, and to repent.
Chemical Addiction
Chemical addiction is a form of slavery. It controls both mind and body and draws you into dark places, emotionally, physically and spiritually. The road to recovery to break free of addiction to alcohol or drugs is often prolonged and difficult, even painful. We at Culver City Christian Counseling will be in it with you every step of the way. Together we’ll construct and use a customized approach. We will show you how to gain strength for the journey by learning to trust in the Lord Jesus Christ.
Marriage and Family
If, in spite of your best efforts, you believe that you really don’t understand women, children, or even yourself. You may find that parenthood adds to your stress. If you know that you struggle with the relationship, finding it all too stressful, we urge you to seek help. Christian counseling for men will show you what the Bible says about relationships and family. We will help you pick up the tools to improve whatever relationship or parenting issues you face. And, when necessary, we even offer divorce counseling.
Crisis and Trauma Counseling
Every man, prominent or unknown, outgoing or introverted, younger or older, is vulnerable to trauma. Christian counseling for men can make a difference for those who are with problems growing out of traumatic experiences (past verbal, sexual, or physical abuse, neglect, significant loss, etc.). If the after-effects of trauma hold you back from realizing a peaceful productive life, please sit down with us to discuss this. We’d like to point you toward healing.
Work and Career Coaching
If you are at a point of being unfulfilled in your job or are lacking any kind of guiding vision for your life, Christian counseling for men has something positive to offer you. We can guide you in your career path to getting passion and purpose back into your work and your life. You can care for your wife and family as the man learning to live out God’s design.
Spiritual Development
A Christian man often feels that the world, including the Church, expects perfection. We’re supposed to have all the answers and to have our lives altogether. The truth is that Christians experience life’s hardships, doubt, and temptation, simply because we live in this broken world. Your church may provide groups for spiritual formation. Christian counseling for men also offers you, as a man, regular opportunities to discuss and learn about faith with others who are at various stages of spiritual development.
